I'm providing a link here to Joel Osteen's website for a message titled "Emptying Out the Negative." I'll give credit for this post to one of my daughters who sent me the link via text, saying only, "Wow!" And I have to agree, it's a "Wow" message. It's on point, simply put, and extremely practical though dealing with the effects of life's most devastating issues such as: hurts, pains, loss, grief, offenses, anything that effects us negatively. This is what Joel says what God will replace these with as we empty out the old and trust Him:
As you empty out the negative in your life, God can fill your life with good things. He’ll give you beauty for ashes, joy for mourning, and you will have peace in the midst of any storm.
The only thing I will add would be to remember to ask God to show you anything that's hidden away that you may not be aware of at this time. You may be surprised at what He might bring up.
I also apologize to anyone who reads this who does not speak English since the message at the link which follows is in English only.
https://www.joelosteen.com/Pages/WatchOnline.aspx
Though you can only watch the video for a donation, if you click on the screen you can hear the audio without cost. Be sure on the page beneath the video screen, message number 696 Emptying Out the Negative is highlighted.
P. S.
Not sure why most of this post is highlighted. I tried to change it a number of time, but alas! couldn't. The message is what's important. I can live with how it looks.